Let Go of Toxic Reminders and Find Peace

Hi everyone!

Okay, this is not  a pretty picture filled, DIY or sharing something pretty with you post. This is a "talkie" post. LOL

Before I start blabbering on I want to say a big Thank You to those of you that have been right there along with me and being so supportive while I get my home life together! 

I never thought I could get strength and motivation from people I haven't met in real life. But, so many of you feel like real friends that I have known for years! And your encouragement has really helped keep me positive! It means so much to me. There are days that I go back and reread your comments and it gives me that little extra push. So Thank you so much!!

As you know, I have been delving into our bedroom clutter and mess. I have been trying to declutter and make it a more inviting place that I want to spend time in. And it has been going great! I am enjoying the changes and how lightened up it has become with just a few new touches here and there and reclaiming areas that were just lost in clutter.

One area I was REALLY dreading was an area filled with paperwork. Boxes of paperwork! Not only was this going to be physically painful because boxes filled with paperwork are very heavy and I needed to carry them downstairs but,  they were also painful mentally and emotionally.

remove things that bring up bad memories. If you must keep them, box them up and store them in a remote bplace in your home so you dont have to  be reminded of them al the time!


First of all I need to tell you upfront that I really did not want to write this post. It was so difficult for me. Just like clearing out this toxic area. This clutter of paperwork represents the most painful times of my life. And unfortunately those times were filled with a lot of paperwork (legal stuff). And I did not want to touch this area with a 10 foot pole  because I would end up reliving all of it. And that is why it has sat here and accumulated for about 3 years!

Who wants to deal with things that just breaks their heart and takes them back to such ugly memories? No one. 

Toxic paperwork. Sort it. Box it up. And get it far away!

Yup, another REAL LIFE picture. I think I might be the worst example of a blogger in the world! LOL I promise you I will share more pretty pictures in the future!

I was finally ready emotionally to deal with this toxic paperwork once and for all. It took me several days of working at it. I admit, I could only deal with it for short periods of time but, I didn't give up. It just took a little bit longer than it should.

The pure emotional weight of these constant toxic reminders of pain was finally leaving my home. There were definitely moments during this clean up that I just sat down and cried. And oddly enough that was okay. I think I needed to weep for these memories one last time. 

let it go

I knew I had to plow through this. I had to find the strength to let all of what this paperwork represented to us go. It was not easy. 

Getting rid of all the physical representation of these events was hard enough but, I knew I had to also release the emotionally feelings attached to all of it.

And that truly was the hardest part. I had been hanging onto all this negative energy and feelings for such a long time. And that kind of burden gets too overwhelming to continue to carry.

With physical struggle, I managed to go through all this paperwork, eliminate everything that I could and box up the remainder and haul it out of my home and into storage. But, the emotional and mental part still remained and left me with one option. Prayer.

And that's what I did. I needed to let go of these horrible and painful feelings. I needed to open my heart and give it all over to God. They were just toxic weight and I needed to lighten my heart and move on.

God gave me guidance and inspiration through Matthew.

Matthew 6:14 - For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you

Matthew 11:28-30 - Come unto me, all [ye] that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 

It's not easy to give up something that has been a part of you for so long. Even if it dark and painful. I am ready to give it up. As you will notice I did not say "I was ready". It is still an ongoing thing I am working on. But, each day I feel my heart become lighter. And the pain lessening. 

So, why on earth am I sharing this toxic part of my life with you here for the whole world to read?

Because I hope it helps someone else to know you are not alone. We all carry painful memories and burdens. Sometimes you just need that little inspiration to head in the right direction. 

Like I said at the beginning of this post, so many of you have helped me with some simple words of encouragement. And it really helped me to keep a positive outlook.

One of the best things to come from the internet is meeting people you would never have the opportunity in every day life to meet. Being able to connect to others that are going through something similar in their lives as I am or feeling the same emotions It gives us a commonality.  And I want to help lift up peoples lives. And give back the encouragement I have received. 

helping each other with support, encouragement, understanding and kindness.

I hope in some small way this has helped you or inspired you to let go of something that may be toxic in your life. Know you are not alone. 

Thank you so much for visiting even when there is nothing pretty to  show or talk about. LOL

Have a wonderful day!

My Favorite Easy Dump Cake Recipe

Hi everyone!

I have to admit, I really avoid baking these days. Why? Because it's just me here most of the time and the Good Lord knows,  I DONT need to be eating baked treats all by myself! And that is what would happen! Yes, I have a mighty powerful sweet tooth! And most of my friends and family are trying to lose weight or at least cut back of calories so, I can't bake yummy desserts and then just surprise folks with them. Which is what I used to do. I would get hit with the baking bug around 10:00 at night and bake up a huge batch of muffins and then head out and deliver them to people while they were still warm.

But, sometimes when Troy is home I will bake something kind of sweet treat. When he was home recently, I baked a dump cake. It is such a simple and easy treat to make. And so yummy and rich. Dump cakes are kinda like a fruit crumble. Which I love!

My Favorite Easy Dump Cake Recipe

This is an easy and oh so yummy dump cake recipe with a couple of added  goodies for a little different taste.

Keep Jewelry Organization Simple and Thrifty

Hi everyone!

This is not an exciting post. I just thought I would say that upfront! LOL

Sometimes just quick, simple and thrifty is all you really need.  Yes, there are fun DIY tutorials for different kind of organizers for jewelry out there. I have made several myself and blogged about it. 

But, while cleaning out and decluttering and organizing my bedroom, I just want a right now solution for storage/organization. I don't want to paint anything. I don't want to go to a craft store or hardware store to buy things in order to make something to organize something.

I want something NOW that will do the job and I can just move on to dealing with something else.

So, that's what I did.

The perfect necklace organizer is a simple thrifted tie rack. No painting or buying extra items to create a necklace holder.


The Good the Bad the Ugly ~ Tackling My Bedroom Dresser!

Hi everyone!

Back to the bedroom we go! LOL 

One of the worst homekeeping habits is just stacking stuff somewhere it  doesn't belong and telling yourself you will get to it later. 

Yeah, right! What happens is you end up stacking a little more and then a little more and then suddenly the entire service is stacked high!

That became an issue for me. When you are mentally and emotionally in a dark place, it actually is physically exhausting. I have no idea how that occurs but, it true. 

When just getting out of bed and gathering dirty laundry up and washing them is a major feat for the day, putting them away was more than I could deal with sometimes. So, I managed to haul them upstairs and they got stacked wherever I found a spot. 

And here comes that word again....overwhelming! What a destructive word that is!

Once I lightened up our bedroom with new curtains and bedspread I decided that baby steps were going to be the way to tackle the rest of the room. Just lightening it up gave me the extra whuph I needed!

Taking it one step at a time to let go of being in a dark metal and emotional place and slowly gaining my joy back.  Declutter, clean and organize your bedroom dresser and make it pretty to help keep it that way!

A Simple Yummy Baked Potato Salad Recipe

Hi everyone!

I thought I would take a break from the bedroom redo and give you a favorite recipe of mine. It's super easy and very thrifty. Two of our favorite things!

A very easy and thrifty baked potato salad. at thethriftygroove.com

A 39 Cent Purchase and a little DIY for a Pretty Touch

Happy Wednesday everyone!

After Sunday's post about slowly reclaiming our bedroom and turning it into a place of comfortable  calm, I have repurposed and recreated a few things to either add function in a pretty and clean way or just added pretty touches. 

And everything I am doing is of course thrifty!

A few days after taking down the dark curtains and replacing them with pretty fresh white ones and adding the new quilt set my mom and I went thrift shopping. We both received our 50% off total purchase coupons in the mail and couldn't wait to see what wonderful bargains we would find! And we also stopped at a Salvation Army store to see if there might be other fun thrift finds.

For me, this was a mission I was excited about doing! I was looking for items I could use in our bedroom. Like I said earlier, I wanted items I could make pretty and functional and just a pretty accent here and there.

Adding simple, easy and thrifty pretty touches to our bedroom. Easy DIY wicker vase

Lightening Up Our Bedroom. Lightening Up My Heart

Hi everyone!

Just a warning....this post came out a lot longer that I thought it would. Once I started "talking" it had a life of its own. LOL

For a lot of years our bedroom has been forgotten. Yup, it became a dumping ground of non-bedroom things and it was dark. Very dark. Why?  A lot of reasons. 

It became a dumping ground because  we only have a two bedroom townhouse and both bedrooms had to be used as bedrooms. At the same time we started a business. So, our bedroom became an office as well. Then that just took over our space. 

Also years ago Troy had a night job so our bedroom needed blackout curtains so he could sleep through the day. When he no longer worked that job, we still used blackout curtains because it kept the room cooler and the sun really does beat down during the afternoon in our bedroom.

So, this became normal. I never really even thought about it. I also avoided our bedroom. I slept there and then didn't go back into the room until it was time to go to bed again.

And then for a couple of years our bedroom really reflected where I was mentally. It was a dark cave to crawl into to get away from the world. Not a happy or comfortable room. Just a dark hole.

Are You Feeling Overwhelmed? Let's Talk About it. And a How To Make an Easy & Thrifty Bracelet Organizer

Hi everyone!

Recently I gave myself a gift. It's not a gift that I am accepting very easily. But, I am working on it. The gift was permission to ease up on myself. The realization that I can't do it all and especially the fact that I can't do it all at once. 

In my mind I feel around 30 years old. Lots of energy and the whole "I can conquer the world" attitude. I am just now starting, and I mean starting to accept that I am not 30 years old. My body does not respond like I am 30 any more. What a crappy realization! LOL

Now don't get me wrong, I still have my days where I go whole hog and do a major from sun up to sun down running day. Just ignore everything else and go  full  blast working like I'm 30. The big difference? When I lay down at night pretty much every freaking thing hurts! And generally I am down for the count the next day! 

Yup, I  finally hit that realization point of my mind and body don't agree what age I am. Do you know the feeling?

Well, that was a lot of stuff to lead up to  a simple repurposing post. 

I guess the point is that the feeling of being overwhelmed when you think about all the stuff you really need to work on and get done can make you crazy. I will look at a room or an area and think, "Why isn't this cleaned from top to bottom and organized by now?" I have always been able to tackle a big job in a day with no problem. Now I look at that same job and think, "Holy cow this is going to take forever and I am really going to hurt when I'm done!"

And so what happens? I put it off.  

How to make a simple, easy and thrifty bracelet organizer at thethriftygroove.com

Create a Woven Basket Purse Doorhanging~ Simple and Thrifty!

Hi everyone!

Wow! A post from me! How amazing and shocking! LOL 

I confess after being sick for 5 weeks, it has taken me some time to get back to normal. Well, normal for me that is. This getting older business can really suck! It takes so much longer to completely heal than it did. 

I hope you all have been having a wonderful summer so far. I feel like I am constantly playing catch up these days. Do you feel  that way?

I so wish I could clone myself. Wouldn't that be nice? One Diann could be cleaning the house. One could be working on the yard. One could be doing errands. And me, the original could just have fun and do crafts and other things. 

Earlier this week I just pretended that all those clones were hard at work and I took the time to play and make a new doorhanging for my front door.

How to make a woven basket purse doorhanging at thethriftygroove.com

Sorry I Have Been Missing In Action

Hi everyone!

This is just a little catch up on why I have been MIA for about a month.

For 30+ days Troy and I have been sick with Strep throat, ear infections and sinus infections. We thought we just had nasty colds. 

This lovely trio of infections just kept knocking us down. After a week or so we would start to feel better and think "Yay! it's going away!" And then in a couple of days we were back to feeling ,like we were swallowing glass and had someone jabbing ice picks into  our ears! It was not fun!

I don't think I have ever been sick for over a month straight. Apparently these infections continuously re-infected each other. So, there was no getting better until we got some heavy duty antibiotics. 

We both have a few days left of taking the antibiotics but, it is so wonderful to feel alive again!