Hi Dear Friends,
Long post with no prettiness!
I am going to take the next couple of weeks off from blogging.
I have tried to write this post several times now but, keep breaking down. so, I am sorry that I am giving you such short notice regarding the Thrifty Things Friday party cancellation.
I am going to try to type this as quickly as possible so I make it through it.
As most of you know we have raised Lia (the princess) since she was 7 weeks old. She is the love of our life.
After little to no contact and no support, her bio mom, Amber decided she wants Lia. We recently went through a long and exhausting trial regarding custody.
We had to prove the 11 main “in the best interest of the child” factors of the custody guidelines. We proved all of those above and beyond any doubt.
During the trial, while Ray, Amber’s husband was on the stand he testified that not only is he a convicted child abuser but, it was so bad that he was forced to give his child (from a different relationship) up for adoption. He further testified that he has been diagnosed with severe mental diseases/illnesses. He also testified that he is not getting any therapy for these issues.
Amber testified that she works graveyard shift therefore, all night long Lia will be left with this convicted child abuser that she doesn’t even know.
There are a lot and I do mean a LOT more horrific things we discovered during this trial. I don’t have the energy to get into them now.
Once the trial was over the judge, Susan L. Hubbard (Wayne County, Third Circuit Court, Detroit) stated she would get back with us in 2–3 weeks regarding her opinion.
We waited and heard nothing for 3 weeks. Last week we got a call from our attorney's office. They just received a notice from Judge Hubbard stating that she wanted to continue the trial and interview Lia. We did not receive this notice. Apparently, I believe it was just faxed to our attorney’s office. We had less than 7 days notice regarding this.
At the previous trial, we had asked the judge to do a video interview with Lia and the judge said "No, she is too young."
Our hearts dropped. We could feel something was very wrong with this.
All this time, we have protected Lia from knowing anything was going on. We protected her from the ugliness that was being fought out in the court. She is just a little girl and deserves to just be happy. Unfortunately, we had to tell her about going to talk to a judge and the reasons behind it.
She was so scared but, Troy and I kept reassuring her that she would be fine. Just go in and tell the truth. No pretending or playing around.
At 2:15 this past Monday, Lia was taken into Judge Hubbards chambers by a Wayne County Deputy. our attorney went to escort her in and the deputy informed him he was not allowed in the room. He was surprised by this. I went to sit in the courtroom. Amber was sitting in there as well. The next thing I know the deputy escorted Amber back to the judges chamber. Our attorney started heading that way as well since Amber was not allowed to go back with Lia and the Judge without our attorney present. Instead the deputy handed our attorney a packet of papers.
Judge Hubbard had ALREADY made a judgment against us. This entire thing was a ruse.
Hubbard (I can no longer refer to her as a “Judge”) did NOT consider any factors regarding the welfare of Lia. She dismissed anything that had to do with her best interest. instead she decided to say that our original guardianship was not valid. This was decided over four years ago in a completely different court system and she did not pull any of those earlier transcripts to discover the basis of our guardianship.
Hubbard obviously could not care less that Lia was going to complete strangers and into a child abusive environment.
Everyone was completely stunned over this judicial misconduct. But, to top it all off, we discovered that the whole point of bringing Lia to court was so Hubbard could literally steal her, hand her over to Amber and then send them down a back way. We were not even told any of this!
Hubbard hid in her chambers and refused to even speak to our attorney. Amber’s attorney came to us and said he needed Lia’s coat. that is how we discovered that they were stealing Lia without her even knowing what was happening or saying goodbye.
We raced down to the lobby and there sat Amber and Lia guarded by 6-8 deputies waiting for their car.
My parents were with us. I honestly didn’t care if a deputy shot me on site, I was going to at least give Lia, the little girl that I have raised her entire life, a hug. I was crying and shaking so bad. Lia asked me what was wrong. I tried my hardest to sound okay for her. I told her she was going to go on an adventure for awhile. NOBODY had told her what was going on. She did NOT know that Amber was stealing her away that moment to Utah. Yes, she was taking her 1700 miles away!
Lia looked at me with this beautiful innocent face and said, “Mama, I don’t want to go away from you and Papa. You said everything was going to be okay”. She started crying.
My heart shattered into a million pieces at that moment. She had put all of her faith and belief into Troy and I. And God help me, I couldn’t protect her!
It seems quite clear that Amber had previous knowledge of what Hubbards intentions were because she arrived with two car seats to take Lia away.
God I can’t stop crying!
They took her with just the clothes on her back. Nothing else. Hubbard did not even care if she had any type of medicine that she needed. Amber didn’t care about that either. Neither of them asked about Lia’s health. They didn’t care. They didn’t ask if we would gather some of Lia’s things together so she would at least have something that was hers and might bring her some comfort.
Needless to say, there were a great did of illegal things that happened during this vile situation. We have retained yet another attorney to start legal proceedings to get Lia back. WE WILL NEVER STOP TRYING TO GET HER BACK!!!!!
Troy and I have tried our hardest to keep everything low key and civil. And that took Lia away from us. Guess what? The gloves are off! The legal system just betrayed us but, more importantly they put a little girl's life in danger. I have NO trust or faith in the legal system anymore. I just witnessed the people whom we are suppose to trust commit horrendous crimes against an innocent and beautiful little girl.
All of this is of public record. So, I am no longer going to try to play nice and not talk about it.
Amber reads this blog. Early on in the beginnings of this trial, she actually listed as HER witness EVERY reader of The Thrifty Groove. Yup, you read that correctly. Why you ask? Because I did a post that asked for your prayers and good thoughts regarding this trial. I gave a simple summary of what happened. I used no names. But, now I will use names. Because like I said, it is all public record.
I am angry, heartbroken, disillusioned and completely sick over all of this.
The fight has just begun. It has already been an extremely painful and expensive fight and it just got worse. As any one who has had to go through anything similar to this and hire an attorney that specializes in appeals knows, the legal fees are through the roof. But, we had no choice! We are talking about Lia. My family jumped in to help get together the retainer fees so we could get an attorney on this right away.
Although Amber Haning doesn’t feel she needs to pay her bills, we do. We received a notice months ago from her original attorney stating he was going in front of the judge to have himself removed from the case due to the fact that Amber wouldn’t pay him. And “lack of communication”. Amber also has not paid child support that was ordered years ago. We are talking about a lousy $25.00 a week for the child she says she loves so much. Once again, ALL PUBLIC RECORD.
Can you tell I am angry? It beats throwing up constantly, not sleeping and continuously crying. Which has been the norm here for the last 3 days.
And we all know the lack of speed when it comes to the courts, so this will take time.
My entire family is destroyed over this. Everyone’s lives just stopped earlier this week. This is Lia’s family and these are the people who REALLY love her.
Since we have hired a specialized attorney and handed him over free rein, there is little else we can do at this point.
It has felt like a death here. But, it is NOT! What I personally can do is make sure that I take care of myself. I need to be stronger than I ever have been. I HAVE to do this for Lia. She WILL come back home where she belongs!
We have a family tradition of all of us going up to our cabin for Thanksgiving. Lia was so looking forward to this. When everything happened earlier this week, we basically (as a family) cancelled Thanksgiving. But, I realized at some point that if we did this, we allowed the monsters who were involved in this disgrace to win. Lia needs her true family to be strong. We, as a family, need to pull together even more than normal.
So, we are going up to the cabin. Lia will be with us in spirit. And I just need to take a break from everything and heal a bit.
So, I am not going to be blogging for a couple of weeks. I am not closing my blog. My blog is an escape for me and I need it. But, I need some time.
I hope you all understand.
On a side note. I will really be focusing on selling a lot of items. Normally I would say something cute like “I want to sell these things so I have more spending money for future treasures”. But, that is not true. The honest truth is, the financial burden we now have is daunting at the very least. this is our slow time for our business so, every cent will be used to help bring Lia back home. I will do anything and everything I can to make this happen.
Our business, DTL Herbs (which stands for Diann, Troy, Lia) will continue to sell the products that Lia has made. She made some cat toys, and reindeer food, so that she could donate money to a local animal shelter that she has friended. We will continue her work and continue to support her charity.
My personal prayer:
Dear Heavenly Father, please watch over Lia. Please keep her safe. Please give her the strength she needs to get through this frightening time in her life. I ask you to guide her and stand with her. I ask that you give her comfort when I can’t. I ask you to protect this innocent child of yours. Keep her heart pure and body strong. I ask you to guide two of your fallen children, Amber and Ray. Although they have denied you, I know you won’t abandoned them. Please, through your love, keep Lia safe. I ask that you show Troy and I guidance, strength and courage through this ordeal. In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ Amen.
Please pray for Lia and for us. Keep us in your good thoughts. Thank you.
Diann and Troy